In a recent visit to CNN.com I bumbled upon an article about Internet dating sites that cater to (let’s not call them cheaters) attached individuals looking for some extra curricular activity. The politically correct term for this is Internet Married Dating.  Strangely I found this rather intriguing. The featured Internet Dating site was a site called AshleyMadison.com. After reading the entire article I was so disgusted that I did what I am sure many other outraged readers did - I immediately went to AshleyMadison.com and signed up.

The folks at AshleyMadison.com present themselves as an online dating agency. As I have discussed in an earlier IdleRomance post, an agency (a real agency) provides a much broader range of services than the standard, run-of-the-mill, Internet dating site. After looking things over I can safely tell you that AshleyMadison.com is not an agency. They are an online dating site plain and simple with a bit of twist on the pricing. I say this because unlike other Internet dating sites like Match.com and eHarmony.com, AshleyMadison.com does not go in for the subscription price model. Instead they have you purchase credits which can then be used to contact other members via site email or chat. I know that doesn’t sound that different but it is in two ways. The first thing is that you only pay so many credits for the first email you send to another member. Once communication is established there are no more charges for email to that member. The second difference comes in how they handle chat pricing. Chat is priced by the half hour session and there is no break for chatting with someone you have chatted with before.

Another way that AshleyMadison.com is different from other  Internet Dating sites is in the amount of information you are asked to put in your online dating profile. They really don’t seem to expect you to write a whole lot. They cut right to the chase with nine basic details: a screen nickname, a brief caption which appears on screen under your screen nickname, a statement of your limits (more on this later), weight, height, body type, ethnic background, smoking habits, and (the all important) relationship status. Most of these are self explanatory but two are kind of interesting. In terms of your limits you are basically stating to others browsing your dating profile what it is that you are looking for. You can pick between long or short term involvement or you can go all in with an “anything goes” stance. You can be undecided or limit your “relationships” to “Cyber Affairs and Erotic Chat”. The other thing that struck me was the choices offered in the relationship status category. For males your choices are Single Male seeking Females, Attached Male seeking Females, and Male seeking Males. I guess in the Male seeking Males category it really isn’t important if you are Single or Attached.

I am sure I’ll be posting more about this site in the near future.
jd

I guess I have been at this Internet dating thing for over a year so it had to happen sooner or later. As I mentioned in my last post I actually found a lady who was willing to meet me - I was going to say “in the flesh” but it was really in a local coffee shop and everyone was fully clothed.  This was kind of a strange one because we had only chatted for about an hour last Saturday (7/18) night and had agreed to meet for coffee at one on Sunday. We had got to “talking” because she had “winked” at me on the dating site OKCupid.com. I was a little leary due to the fact that she had just joined the “community” the day before. But, to my surprise she actually showed up!

Well now, in accordance with the rules I layed down at the start of this blog, I am not going to tell you about her or trash her in any way. She is a very nice lady and we had a nice conversation over an hour or so. There was no “click” or “spark” that encouraged me to pursue the relationship further and I am confident that she feels the same way. I feel lucky to have found a new friend.

That being said I did learn a thing or two about meeting people in person that I have met on an online dating site. The first is to study the picture(s) provided closely before committing to a meeting. If I were more of a fashion buff I would have been able to tell that the styles being worn by the people pictured around my new lady friend were a tad old. After the meeting I would have to say that the photo was four or five years old. A lot can happen in that span of time. It is really best, in terms of establishing an honest relationship from the start, that the photo you post on any Internet dating site be as current as possible. I also learned not to let a first impression be a deal breaker. This is not to suggest that when I first laid eyes on her that I wanted to run, screaming, out of the room but I was afraid that the conversation may be a bit stilted. It was not.

If I got anything from this experience (besides a new friend) I would have to say that I have gained some confidence. I guess I was fortunate to have a relatively good first meeting but, then again, I didn’t gain one of those memorable stories of dating disaster that I could use at parties for years to come. Like I go to parties.
jd

I return to writing about Internet Dating after a longer than expected pause. As I discussed in earlier posts, I have been in the process of moving to a new residence – a process that has throughly occupied my energy and attention for the last month and a half. If any of my readers are interested, I did end up purchasing a used mobile home and am very close to having found a place in it for [most of] my belongings. Everyone, welcome to my new home.

Though I have not been writing about Internet Dating, I have continued to maintain my online presence and have been in contact with a few ladies. In fact, for the first time in my Internet Dating career, I actually met with a real live woman last Sunday. We met on my favorite online dating site, OKCupid.com on Saturday – she actually “winked” at me, chatted for about an hour, and decided to meet at an agreed upon location the following day. We had a nice conversation and a good cup of coffee but I have to admit that there weren’t any sparks flying around the room. I think she would agree with that statement. I did write her a “thanks for meeting me” email mostly because I was brought up right.

So, I’m back. Boy, am I back.

jd

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I guess I have been at this Internet dating thing for at least six months now. Though it hasn’t rendered a single actual date (or phone call, for that matter) I have noticed that I use a specific process when I am checking out someone’s Internet dating profile. Basically, when I’m perusing any dating site’s “catalog” or checking out the dating profile of someone who has viewed my profile I go in the following order:

1. Photograph(s) on the Dating Profile
   

   This is, more often than not, the quickest path to the next dating profile. Loyal readers have had to listen to me complain about the quality level (usually low) of many of the profile photos found across the Internet. Here are some attributes that merit an automatic rejection:
   

   • No photo.
   • Photo of the subject next to another male with his arm around
     her.
   • Photo of the subject standing in front a banner reading,
     “Happy New Year 1992″.
   • Photo of the subject holding an infant.
   • Photo of the subject wearing hunting attire and holding a
     scoped deer rifle.
   • Photo of the subject on or near a horse.

2. Basic Statistics on the Dating Profile
   

   Having survived the photo analysis I next move to the vital
   statistics. Conflicts in this area can sometimes be overridden by a
   great photo. Rejection criteria include:
   

   • Ladies outside the age range of 49 to 58. (It really bums me
     out when a 63 year old “winks” at me.)
   • Smokers.
   • Dopers. (Yes, I came through the Sixties but the drug thing
     didn’t happen).
   • Passionate non-drinkers.
   • Ladies taller than 5′ 10″. (I am 5′ 8″ and have been
     astounded by the number of 5′ 9″ers that consider me too
     short.)
   • Ladies describing their body type as something not equivalent
     to “slender”. (I feel that I should out-weigh my partner.
     Sometimes it is the only advantage I have.)

3. Interests Admitted To on the Dating Profile
   

   Of course, having interests in common is an aid to creating a
   lasting relationship. I don’t have a problem if the lady has
   interests outside my sphere of preference as long as it isn’t
   downright nutty. The following examples are eject buttons for me:
   

   • Nudists. (This one surprised me, too. At first it sounded
     good until I realized that I was expected to follow
     “suit”.)
   • Motorcycles. (Don’t get me started.)
   • Winter sports. (As my good friend James W. says, “Anyone that
     straps two boards to their feet and then jumps off a cliff
     deserves whatever they get.”)
   • Water sports. (I’m afraid of the water.)
   • Any sport with the word “Extreme” in front of it.
   • Barber Shop Quartets.
   • Serious devotion to anything resembling an organized
     religion.

If I make it this far in the in initial evaluation then there is a good
chance that I will begin the process of initiating “communication”.

jd

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Let’s face it: men are into women who are both beautiful inside and outside. While women can be a real frustration, they can be at the same time a real satisfaction. Today, men just can’t resist dating women who are beautiful. What do you think are the main points of a woman that makes her irresistible to a man?

Men’s minds are like puppets with strings attached on their backs. These strings are their motivation to seeing a lovely woman who passes by a road, or simply someone they meet. Dating men however, must not become too astounded in seeing a lovely woman. They are part of human nature to be naturally charming, and men shouldn’t abuse these capability of a woman to attract. The alluring ways a woman has are like magnets that have men drooling in their senses, and a man should learn how to control.

For men who have grown tired of the traditional way, you can go online and try to sign up for an adult personals for looking men site and find beautiful women to date!

Women nowadays stand tall and proud of themselves. They have the fire in their eyes that make men shiver. As what most men say, “without a lovely woman there would have been no cases for infidelities in this world.” Physically they are gorgeous, seductive, foxy and stunning. But aside from the physical attribute, mentally they are be sassy, adept, witty and venturesome. It wasn’t the same scenario back from the late 1960’s because they conservative before. Today, they are bold, canny, ambitious and not to mention, vain. Men can date women in speed dating events, to increase their chances in dating lovely women.

But some men are not looking for beauty. They are simply looking for women who are able to take care of herself, who has some sense of responsibility, and who can lead a role of a wife in a family. As a man, dating lovely women is a big factor when you want to further develop your dating relationship. If you’re creating big impacts on a lovely woman, don’t make your social interactions fatal by placing too much attention on her looks. This may turn a woman off, as she will think that you only care about her looks, and not about her whole personality.

As a man, you might be lucky enough to let others know that you’re dating a lovely woman. Dating a lovely woman needs strong physical and emotional control for a man. As a dating tip, you must know what a woman needs in dating and be the best man that you can be by being a gentleman: offer to open doors for her, give her flowers, respect what she needs, take her out to a dance, and appreciate her. You can never know your chances for dates with a lovely woman.

OK, I know I have said that I am not here to bash anyone but sometimes you run across a line in an online dating profile that is impossible not to comment on (and that sometimes makes the whole internet dating search worthwhile). I found this gem on Saturday (yes, I was checking out online dating sites on Valentine’s day) and I just have to share it:

The most important thing xxx is looking for in a person is:

    * I want to find a man who wants to go all out in a relationship and have it all. No holes barred.I want to find someone who will be the most important person to me and me to him.

“no holes barred”…..finally a chance at some great aural sex!

jd

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Chat dating is not new, it has evolved over the time and has been around for many years. Part of the internet landscape are chat rooms which prior to the progress of internet, features an enhanced dating experience of couples from a multitude of dating websitesI

There are many chat dating sites in a chat room, chat dating takes place in real time while people converse with each other. Other people can give you an immediate response where your comment will appear as soon as you type it and press the enter button. Some even takes advantage of the full use they can have using webcam chat dating and successfully it has solved some problems with communication encountered  with dating online. You can have a listed view of chat dating participants on the side of the chatroom with their nicknames and you can directly just click on their names to be able to converse with that person. You can access features such as “whisper’ for private messaging options or use voice and video chats to enhance your chat dating experience. There are many chatrooms available online for a specific group of interests.

But first, know the standards a chatroom should maintain to have a fabulous chat dating experience.

For singles who wants to start dating online, you may follow these 5 easy tips for successful chat dating:

Keep it Private. Your username says a lot about your personalty and you are asked to create a username, and it’s best if you remain as discreet as possible by evealing only few details about yourself. This name will be the name you’ll be using when you engage in chat dating with another person. Until you’ve gathered enough information from your date, that would be the best time to reveal any kind of personal information.

Don’t type in all capital letters or use fonts and colors that are hard to read. Typing in this way can be misunderstood for shouting and you might even meet people who are annoyed to this. Generally, it is considered rude and unpleasant. Try to avoid using bright colors as this will make the words you type hard to read.

Be friendly especially when there is someone from the chat dating room enters. It’s a way to make yourself known to other people and it’s you next big step to enter the chatroom without being shy.

Don’t initiate cybersex in chatrooms unless it’s a room designated for cybersex. This is not a good idea, as you might be going against the site’s policy. In return, they might suspend your account once they’ve found you out using chats for sex. Don’t also opt for sex because dating is a decision

Last but not the least, just be yourself. You need not to invent some personality who isn’t really you, after all, pretending someone who isn’t your true self is more than a liar. You know that this isn’t you, and it could be a really uncomfortable experience to guise yourself as another person. This will later on destroy you once you’ve chatted with someone you already like.

More and more singles are using chatrooms, but most of them are females who are greatly influenced by online dating. Try up for a chatrrom website now for singles and start dating online!

It’s been said that dating is a numbers game. For seniors dating, does this statement also applicable?

In high school and college, we had many interests in common with people our age. And since everyone was single, we had many dating partners to be called as “boyfriends” and “girlfriends”. As we get older, our choices of potential mates get limited. Sometimes, this gets affected by the places we live, in work places, and for spiritual and recreational places. Oftentimes, it’s also through casual acquaintances, blind dates and all sorts of matchmaking patterns fixed by our friends, relatives or even strangers.

As we grow old and age reaches its retirement, it could also mean a very difficult time to seek for a potential love who we can spend the rest of our lives with. Online dating brings together people who share similar interests, different age ranges and beliefs, even those who are not living close with each other. For senior dating, it might be a difficult time for them to meet that special someone in the real world so the internet would be a good place for seniors. Get to meet them by going online and checking out the popular seniors dating sites that we have already laid down for them. That way elderly people will be encouraged to join because senior dating is never be too late with whatever age group you are in.

Learn how these popular online dating sites work and its benefits and costs.

Senior Dating Site Review: Match.com

Online dating is becoming very popular for seniors, and Match.com is one of the oldest online dating websites. Match.com is an online dating resource for singles for both young and old! It’s free for signing up and you can search through thousands of profiles and photos.

Senior Dating Site Review: Senior Friend Finder

More and more seniors are finding companionship and love online. But where to begin? Senior Friend Finder is one of the most popular senior online dating sites on the Internet because of its easy to use, cheap  and quality services. This online senior dating site has also an effective search tools that lets you connect easily to men and women online.

Senior Dating Site Review: eHarmony

What’s the buzz about eHarmony? The site claims to take the guesswork out of matchmaking by using a scientific approach to help people find not only good matches and potential mates, but also soul mates. If you are curious with what scientific approach they use, they actually narrows down the list of singles to a single group that are compatible for you based on your preferences and interests.

I have realized that I really have been sticking with the mainstream Internet Dating sites - probably because they are familiar (via TV) and not as scary. But the results have been less than stellar. I’ve actually gotten only one lady (from a FREE online dating site) to email me on a more-or-less regular basis but she lives like 1400 miles away. I guess she figured I was a pretty safe bet (too bad she doesn’t know how desperate I am!). Anyway, I decided to get serious on Google and look for another, less known dating venue. One of the first sites I came across was a directory of online dating sites and I have to admit that I found the categories listed there a little strange. It will probably take me two or more posts to cover this but I have created a table of the categories (and this is all of them) with a quick comment on each. The weird part is that these dating categories at first seem far reaching but on analysis really fall short.  Here they are:

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It’s your first time to go out together and you’re all-tensed up. Payday hasn’t arrived yet and as expected, you are to pay for whatever expenses you’ll have on your first date together. As a man, your role is to take in command when pay checks ask you to lay down on the table some good hard-earned cash from your wallet. And while you’re enjoying some expensive cuisine at some fancy resto or boozing the night away in a mini bar for cold pina coladas, make sure you have enough to pay for two, as this will always include not only your own expenses but also hers.

In the meantime, single guys must equip himself some dating tips for for that perfect, memorable, first date together. Know your ways around a woman and start start dating someone you love. But before you engage in any online activity, make sure you have first-hand information on what you should do on that date. Read on for some helpful ideas before you go on that romantic first date together:

Take a short break. if you’re shy about dating, here’s shy dating advice for you: if you feel the need to go to the comfort room to ease out all the tensions that you’ve been keeping for such a long time, then don’t hesitate to go. This will probably be happening quite often and you need to release all of this before you appear for the first time face to face with your date.

Show your good side. Your the man, and the things that you will do on your first date will determine if you’ve had any chance for a second date together with the woman you like. Impressions are important because these impressions will be the first impression that your date will evaluate. Make good impressions by showing your good side.

Plan. You’ve initiated the date and you’re expected to be the one on time. Don’t just trust that you’ll get yourself there in time. Always make an allowance of the time, check for any circumstance which will cause the delay of your date together and avoid it from happening.

Call. You’re responsible or checking out once in a while if you’re planned date together is still going on. So make sure that 2 hours prior to your actual date by calling your date to assure him or her that it’s still ongoing.

Dress well and appropriately. Dress for the occasion, not for the impression. Don’t dress too simply, nor dress extravagantly. Dress for the right kind of place, not for the person. Sometimes, looking too dressed-up can be a really bad impression for your date.

Meet Your Date in A Public Place. you need to be very careful with the person whom you’re gonna meet for precaution. He is someone you don;t know, yet. And you should resist going at home with that person,

Be your relaxed self you need to stay clam and you need to be as harmless as you can be. This will help you release negative tensions and feel more comfortable around your date.