I guess I have been at this Internet dating thing for over a year so it had to happen sooner or later. As I mentioned in my last post I actually found a lady who was willing to meet me - I was going to say “in the flesh” but it was really in a local coffee shop and everyone was fully clothed.  This was kind of a strange one because we had only chatted for about an hour last Saturday (7/18) night and had agreed to meet for coffee at one on Sunday. We had got to “talking” because she had “winked” at me on the dating site OKCupid.com. I was a little leary due to the fact that she had just joined the “community” the day before. But, to my surprise she actually showed up!

Well now, in accordance with the rules I layed down at the start of this blog, I am not going to tell you about her or trash her in any way. She is a very nice lady and we had a nice conversation over an hour or so. There was no “click” or “spark” that encouraged me to pursue the relationship further and I am confident that she feels the same way. I feel lucky to have found a new friend.

That being said I did learn a thing or two about meeting people in person that I have met on an online dating site. The first is to study the picture(s) provided closely before committing to a meeting. If I were more of a fashion buff I would have been able to tell that the styles being worn by the people pictured around my new lady friend were a tad old. After the meeting I would have to say that the photo was four or five years old. A lot can happen in that span of time. It is really best, in terms of establishing an honest relationship from the start, that the photo you post on any Internet dating site be as current as possible. I also learned not to let a first impression be a deal breaker. This is not to suggest that when I first laid eyes on her that I wanted to run, screaming, out of the room but I was afraid that the conversation may be a bit stilted. It was not.

If I got anything from this experience (besides a new friend) I would have to say that I have gained some confidence. I guess I was fortunate to have a relatively good first meeting but, then again, I didn’t gain one of those memorable stories of dating disaster that I could use at parties for years to come. Like I go to parties.
jd

I return to writing about Internet Dating after a longer than expected pause. As I discussed in earlier posts, I have been in the process of moving to a new residence – a process that has throughly occupied my energy and attention for the last month and a half. If any of my readers are interested, I did end up purchasing a used mobile home and am very close to having found a place in it for [most of] my belongings. Everyone, welcome to my new home.

Though I have not been writing about Internet Dating, I have continued to maintain my online presence and have been in contact with a few ladies. In fact, for the first time in my Internet Dating career, I actually met with a real live woman last Sunday. We met on my favorite online dating site, OKCupid.com on Saturday – she actually “winked” at me, chatted for about an hour, and decided to meet at an agreed upon location the following day. We had a nice conversation and a good cup of coffee but I have to admit that there weren’t any sparks flying around the room. I think she would agree with that statement. I did write her a “thanks for meeting me” email mostly because I was brought up right.

So, I’m back. Boy, am I back.

jd

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The Internet dating quest continues. I am starting to realize that there is no “one best online dating site” to be found. Consequently you find yourself signing up at an Internet dating site and “working it” until you have exhausted all the acceptable possibilities (Yes, I am discovering exactly how shallow I really am) or hitting the brick wall (i.e. you must cough up some cash if you want to “communicate” at all). When activity (if any) subsides you are on your way to the next dating site like any itinerant farm worker would.

My latest “work site” is  Matchmaker.com. This dating site is one of those sub-sites of a larger brand. I have learned that many Internet dating sites sell would be matchmakers access to their “catalog” of dating profiles and (probably) their software which they allow their customer to “re-brand” with a new name. It looks like Matchmaker.com is an affiliate of Date.com. I haven’t signed up with the main dating site Date.com yet (though it is only a matter of time) but I am interested in seeing if I am presented with the same line-up of perfect matches when I do.

I’ll keep you posted.
jd

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Continuing with my analysis of dating site PerfectMatch.com’s analysis of me - we come to the Complementary Test. Again - the names of these tests are a bit mysterious.

Your Complementary Test Results - SCTI 

Structured, Compromiser, Temperate, Introvert

You have strong opinions and you like things “just so”. Still, your personality is modified by the fact you are willing to let someone else take the lead. You tend to be the person in the relationship that lets the other person dominate a large number of decisions. Most of the time, that doesn’t bother you. You are more likely to have many private thoughts about what is going on in the relationship (or your life) before sharing your thoughts with a partner. This has some very good aspects to it. You are unlikely to erupt impetuously and cause arguments that way. On the other hand, you will often come to your opinions and conclusions by yourself, rather than through mutual discussion. This can be alienating to an extrovert. You might want someone who is like yourself and understands this. On the other hand, without an extrovert, things may stay bottled up and become big problems that could have been handled easier, earlier.

I am not as impressed with this result. I would not say that I am “willing” to let someone else take the lead. I might begrudgingly allow it but, thus far, my partners have not dominated even half of the decisions. True I don’t erupt and start yelling and screaming - but I am likely to engage in discussion on important points surrounding my relationship and I will compromise to a better position if one is presented. Maybe I should take this test again.
jd

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Dilemma time. I actually got a response from one of my emails a while back and I have been corresponding regularly with (who I sure hope is) a very nice lady. I read her online dating profile on a free Internet dating site and found out that we had some mutual interests and we actually live in rather close proximity! So far it has just been basic chit chat about kids and jobs and stuff like that. Neither of us has brought up the topic of a meeting, though I have been keeping my eyes peeled while in line at the grocery store. Tonight’s email from her kind of upped the ante though with a casual off hand question..Are you divorced?

Yes, I am. Twice. The problem is how to approach this dating mine field in an email reply? It really isn’t a whole lot different than bringing it up in your online dating profile - except that in the dating profile you are writing on your terms. Responding to a direct question is a bit different. Why, exactly, is she asking? How much is too much information to give up? Should I try to offer explanations as to why I’ve struck out twice? Should I even reference my two exes? If I do mention them should it be in a respectfully understanding tone or something more realistic? Should I risk scaring her off with some stupid quip like, “Third time is the charm!”? I have to say that my play-it-safe answer was a kind of fizzle - I just acknowledged the score and made a lame comment about not having had the benefit of online dating sites back in the days of yore.

I guess I’ll see if she writes back or not,
jd

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Let’s face it: men are into women who are both beautiful inside and outside. While women can be a real frustration, they can be at the same time a real satisfaction. Today, men just can’t resist dating women who are beautiful. What do you think are the main points of a woman that makes her irresistible to a man?

Men’s minds are like puppets with strings attached on their backs. These strings are their motivation to seeing a lovely woman who passes by a road, or simply someone they meet. Dating men however, must not become too astounded in seeing a lovely woman. They are part of human nature to be naturally charming, and men shouldn’t abuse these capability of a woman to attract. The alluring ways a woman has are like magnets that have men drooling in their senses, and a man should learn how to control.

For men who have grown tired of the traditional way, you can go online and try to sign up for an adult personals for looking men site and find beautiful women to date!

Women nowadays stand tall and proud of themselves. They have the fire in their eyes that make men shiver. As what most men say, “without a lovely woman there would have been no cases for infidelities in this world.” Physically they are gorgeous, seductive, foxy and stunning. But aside from the physical attribute, mentally they are be sassy, adept, witty and venturesome. It wasn’t the same scenario back from the late 1960’s because they conservative before. Today, they are bold, canny, ambitious and not to mention, vain. Men can date women in speed dating events, to increase their chances in dating lovely women.

But some men are not looking for beauty. They are simply looking for women who are able to take care of herself, who has some sense of responsibility, and who can lead a role of a wife in a family. As a man, dating lovely women is a big factor when you want to further develop your dating relationship. If you’re creating big impacts on a lovely woman, don’t make your social interactions fatal by placing too much attention on her looks. This may turn a woman off, as she will think that you only care about her looks, and not about her whole personality.

As a man, you might be lucky enough to let others know that you’re dating a lovely woman. Dating a lovely woman needs strong physical and emotional control for a man. As a dating tip, you must know what a woman needs in dating and be the best man that you can be by being a gentleman: offer to open doors for her, give her flowers, respect what she needs, take her out to a dance, and appreciate her. You can never know your chances for dates with a lovely woman.

OK, I know I have said that I am not here to bash anyone but sometimes you run across a line in an online dating profile that is impossible not to comment on (and that sometimes makes the whole internet dating search worthwhile). I found this gem on Saturday (yes, I was checking out online dating sites on Valentine’s day) and I just have to share it:

The most important thing xxx is looking for in a person is:

    * I want to find a man who wants to go all out in a relationship and have it all. No holes barred.I want to find someone who will be the most important person to me and me to him.

“no holes barred”…..finally a chance at some great aural sex!

jd

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Chat dating is not new, it has evolved over the time and has been around for many years. Part of the internet landscape are chat rooms which prior to the progress of internet, features an enhanced dating experience of couples from a multitude of dating websitesI

There are many chat dating sites in a chat room, chat dating takes place in real time while people converse with each other. Other people can give you an immediate response where your comment will appear as soon as you type it and press the enter button. Some even takes advantage of the full use they can have using webcam chat dating and successfully it has solved some problems with communication encountered  with dating online. You can have a listed view of chat dating participants on the side of the chatroom with their nicknames and you can directly just click on their names to be able to converse with that person. You can access features such as “whisper’ for private messaging options or use voice and video chats to enhance your chat dating experience. There are many chatrooms available online for a specific group of interests.

But first, know the standards a chatroom should maintain to have a fabulous chat dating experience.

For singles who wants to start dating online, you may follow these 5 easy tips for successful chat dating:

Keep it Private. Your username says a lot about your personalty and you are asked to create a username, and it’s best if you remain as discreet as possible by evealing only few details about yourself. This name will be the name you’ll be using when you engage in chat dating with another person. Until you’ve gathered enough information from your date, that would be the best time to reveal any kind of personal information.

Don’t type in all capital letters or use fonts and colors that are hard to read. Typing in this way can be misunderstood for shouting and you might even meet people who are annoyed to this. Generally, it is considered rude and unpleasant. Try to avoid using bright colors as this will make the words you type hard to read.

Be friendly especially when there is someone from the chat dating room enters. It’s a way to make yourself known to other people and it’s you next big step to enter the chatroom without being shy.

Don’t initiate cybersex in chatrooms unless it’s a room designated for cybersex. This is not a good idea, as you might be going against the site’s policy. In return, they might suspend your account once they’ve found you out using chats for sex. Don’t also opt for sex because dating is a decision

Last but not the least, just be yourself. You need not to invent some personality who isn’t really you, after all, pretending someone who isn’t your true self is more than a liar. You know that this isn’t you, and it could be a really uncomfortable experience to guise yourself as another person. This will later on destroy you once you’ve chatted with someone you already like.

More and more singles are using chatrooms, but most of them are females who are greatly influenced by online dating. Try up for a chatrrom website now for singles and start dating online!

It’s been said that dating is a numbers game. For seniors dating, does this statement also applicable?

In high school and college, we had many interests in common with people our age. And since everyone was single, we had many dating partners to be called as “boyfriends” and “girlfriends”. As we get older, our choices of potential mates get limited. Sometimes, this gets affected by the places we live, in work places, and for spiritual and recreational places. Oftentimes, it’s also through casual acquaintances, blind dates and all sorts of matchmaking patterns fixed by our friends, relatives or even strangers.

As we grow old and age reaches its retirement, it could also mean a very difficult time to seek for a potential love who we can spend the rest of our lives with. Online dating brings together people who share similar interests, different age ranges and beliefs, even those who are not living close with each other. For senior dating, it might be a difficult time for them to meet that special someone in the real world so the internet would be a good place for seniors. Get to meet them by going online and checking out the popular seniors dating sites that we have already laid down for them. That way elderly people will be encouraged to join because senior dating is never be too late with whatever age group you are in.

Learn how these popular online dating sites work and its benefits and costs.

Senior Dating Site Review: Match.com

Online dating is becoming very popular for seniors, and Match.com is one of the oldest online dating websites. Match.com is an online dating resource for singles for both young and old! It’s free for signing up and you can search through thousands of profiles and photos.

Senior Dating Site Review: Senior Friend Finder

More and more seniors are finding companionship and love online. But where to begin? Senior Friend Finder is one of the most popular senior online dating sites on the Internet because of its easy to use, cheap  and quality services. This online senior dating site has also an effective search tools that lets you connect easily to men and women online.

Senior Dating Site Review: eHarmony

What’s the buzz about eHarmony? The site claims to take the guesswork out of matchmaking by using a scientific approach to help people find not only good matches and potential mates, but also soul mates. If you are curious with what scientific approach they use, they actually narrows down the list of singles to a single group that are compatible for you based on your preferences and interests.

I’ve mentioned before that I can’t understand why people put themselves through the agony of the Internet Dating experience. I’m not sure why I asked such a general question - what I really can’t figure out is why I put myself through the agony of the Internet Dating experience. I mean my divorce was just finalized in July (’08) - what’s my hurry? I can come and go as I please. I eat what I want when I want it (I have discovered that Klondike Bars make a terrific breakfast). I really am not lacking in anyone to talk to since I recently found myself chatting up my sofa. If I want a little affection I just head out to the local diner (I’ve reached that age where all the waitresses call me “Honey”).

Rummaging through all these online dating sites ain’t cheap, either. Fifty bucks here, forty five bucks there, hell, I might as well be married to Match.com I give them so much money. Wish I could figure this one out.

jd

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